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Mutual Monogamy and Safer Sex

How do I make sure I'm having safe sex?

Safe sex with a partner does not exist!

Have the safest safer sex by:

1) using barrier methods (condoms and sex dams)

2) making sure both you and your partner are tested for STD/STIs and

3) holding to mutual sexual monogamy

What's mutual monogamy?

Great question. Like barrier methods and testing, it's another key element to safer sex.

Mutual monogamy means this:

You (who have been tested for STD/STIs and don't have any) are having sex with only one partner (who also has been tested for STD/STIs and doesn't have any) who only has sex with you. And you both keep it that way! 

Stated another way, you are both STD/STI free and only have sex with each other. Theoretically, outside of abstinence, this is really the safest type of "safer sex" that you can have. 

BUT there is a hitch...TRUST is a HUGE factor in safer sex through mutual monogamy.

  • First, you have to trust that your partner has actually been tested for STD/STIs and many people don't understand if they really have been tested.
  • Second, you have to trust that your partner is only having sex with you and unfortunately many people don't actually know what their partners are "up to" when they aren't together.

Mutual monogamy is dependent on how much you can trust your partner. The best bet is to continue using barrier methods (condoms and sex dams) just to be sure.

Be empowered. Get Tested. People who get tested for STD/STIs are taking responsibility for their sexual health and the health of their partners.

Confusion about STD/STI testing is really common.

The only way that STD/STI testing can make sex safer is to actually know that both you and your partner have been tested at the right time and received negative (aka do not have an STD/STI) test results. 

Don't be embarrassed, be empowered. People who get tested for STD/STIs are taking responsibility for their sexual health and the health of their partners. Share your results

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