Self Explore:  Quizzes 'n More

Self Explore: Quizzes 'n More

Quizzes 'n More: Your Emotion Smarts Quiz

If you haven't visited At The Heart: Understanding and Managing Emotions, check it out now!

Directions: For each of the questions below, choose the number that best reflects your overall experiences in romantic relationships. Then calculate your Emotion Smarts quotient (your ES) by adding up the responses you chose. The higher the number, the higher your relational ES.  

 

Never

Very rarely

Once in a while

Sometimes

Often

1.  In your relationships, how often do you find yourself having an emotional response that surprises you, or that you don't understand? 

5

4

3

2

1

2.  When your partner is angry, upset, happy, or embarrassed, how often can you correctly identify what they're feeling before they tell you? 

1

2

3

4

5

3.  When your partner is upset, how often are you able to help them calm down, make them feel better? 

1

2

3

4

5

4.  When you are upset or frustrated in your relationship, how often do you find yourself losing control and doing things you later regret?

5

4

3

2

1

5.  When you are upset or sad, how often can you snap yourself out of it by doing things that make you feel better?

1

2

3

4

5

6.  How often are you surprised at how an event or situation makes your partner feel? 

5

4

3

2

1

 

If your score ranged from 6-15:

These skills may be something that you struggle with. But the good news is that you can improve on your abilities in these areas by reading more about how to understand emotions and practicing the skills involved in emotion smarts. Review the content on your emotions for useful ideas on how to better understand your emotions and those of others, and to manage those emotions.

If your score ranged from 16-24:

Although there are some areas of ES in which you are doing fairly well, you could probably benefit from improving your skills in other areas. Look at the questions above and identify the ones where you scored the lowest on the 1 to 5 scale). Then check out the pages that deal with understanding your own emotional responses, or managing your emotions, or understanding the emotions of others.

If your score ranged from 25-30:

Overall you have a fairly high level of emotion smarts, and are adequately able to understand your emotions and those of others, and to manage the expression of your feelings. But there is always some room for improvement, and you may find valuable information if you follow the links to understanding your emotions, or on developing skills to manage your emotions, or on developing your ability to understand others' emotions.


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