Self Explore: Quizzes n' More
Quizzes 'n More: Activities to Boost Your Self-Esteem
Positive self-regard is within your reach.
Feeling down? Upset about yourself? There are many things you can do to help maintain a positive charge. We all need to be energized at times, and while support from others is important, it's ultimately up to us to love ourselves.
So what can you do?
Set goals and work to achieve them.
One of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to have a clear set of goals that you actively work to achieve on a daily basis. Seeing yourself make progress in areas of your life that are important to you (like your education, your relationship, your health) makes you feel in control of your life and competent.
Try new things.
The act of trying something new, even if it's not something that becomes
a regular part of your life, can make you feel more adventurous and
competent. If you've always wanted to try yoga, sign up for that one-month beginner's class at your local community center. Or take a spin through these activities for fun and friendship -- many of them can be done alone!
Accomplish a task you've been putting off.
Sometimes we put off tasks that seem overwhelming (like choosing a career path), or that we're having a tough time getting started on (like that 20 page term paper). But if you can get past the inertia and get started, even if it's just for 15 minutes a day, working on it can make you feel more capable and in control of your life. Do it now.
Be true to yourself.
Knowing who you are and what's really important to you can help promote a positive sense of self.
Self-knowledge makes it easier for you to live your life in a way that is consistent with your goals and your personal values, and not just do things to live up to the expectations that others may have for you.
Focusing on what you have, on the things you should be grateful for in your life (e.g., the support and love of your parents, being in good health, having good friends) can create a healthy shift in perspective when you find yourself obsessing over perceived personal flaws and shortcomings.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
There is always going to be someone in the world who gets better grades than you, who has more well-defined abs than you, who is a better guitarist than you, so give it up.
We tend to compare ourselves to the best features of others, and not to their biggest flaws. Since we're not ever going to match up to the best features of everyone else, it's not a valid way to evaluate our worth.
So stop focusing on your perceived deficiencies compared to others and pay more attention to progress over time in your skills, habits, accomplishments, and successes.
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection." - Buddha
Shut off that negativity tape!
Many of us have a tape in our head that voices, in a continuous loop, a list of our flaws, inadequacies, or shortcomings. Having these thoughts continually in our heads can sabotage our attempts to make positive changes in our life, and make us feel very poorly about ourselves.
So if you notice the "play" button being pushed on your negativity tape, hit "stop" by consciously deciding that you aren't going to allow those thoughts in your head anymore, and then refocus your attention on something more productive and positive (like a good book you've been reading, or even the colors of the trees as you drive down the highway).
Recognize your accomplishments.
If you started out not being able to run for more than 30 seconds, and after a month of work can now run 1/2 a mile without stopping...that's a significant feat and you should feel good about it!
If your friend came to you and told you of this accomplishment, would you say "That's nothing. You should be able to run 3 miles like most of the people at the gym", or would you recognize that she had achieved something significant for herself, and say, "That's great! Congratulations"?
Seek out relationships with others who respect and support you, and who live positive and healthy lives...
...and minimize contact with those who don't. This includes co-workers, friends, family members and even romantic partners.
Being around others who appreciate and respect you helps you to appreciate and respect yourself.
And spending time with people who have a positive outlook, and who live physically and emotionally healthy lives, makes it more likely that you will engage in the same types of healthy behaviors, which will make you feel good about yourself. Nurture healthy relationships.
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